Mr. Aviators

Mistakes

Remember kids, you don’t just going around kissing people in intimate moments. You might as well have sex with them. Everyone makes mistakes, you kiss a person out of impulse and next thing you know they are in your arms saying how great you are. When you leave, the story changes. You feel bad about yourself because this person pours their heart out and what goes through your mind is whether or not you really want to be with them.

To the person who has to wrestle with the thought that of being with that person, you really don’t want to be with that person because you are thinking about not wanting to be with them. Even if they are a great person, nothing will change that fact. If you ever had a crush on someone you will be with them after the first time you kiss them. (By the way that person ruined the other person’s first kiss just the same way that person’s first was also ruined.)

So if you decide to kiss someone think about it and ask yourself why. Is it because the person before hurt you and you are trying to find solace in what has happened. Probably. As much as you would like to deny it. Yeah, you just haven’t gotten over it. So now you’re think, how do you tell this person no? Be the nicest and most sincere. Admit to your faults and do not bullshit because you are better than that. After that is over, watch a movie. Then you deal with the person who haven’t gotten any closure from. Once that is over, life can return to normal.

Dear Beta

So I saw letter/rant about a guy writing about something nice girls rejecting the nice guys and then turning around saying that there are no more nice guys in the world. If you want to read it here it is. And you know what you will find this on websites where you will find lulz because in my opinion the author is an idiot and idiots make me lul. Not to mention I have a few things to say about that letter.

Nice is a common trait among human beings. It is also an objective and substantial trait. I might be nice to the cute girl in my math class and be explicitly mean to the girl that sits across from me. With that said, what is with girls saying why aren’t there any nice guys in this world? Well, there shouldn’t be. If you say you’re the nice guy that means you have a one dimensional personality because if you are described as a nice guy then that is all you have going for. You haven’t shown how confident, funny, or how smart you are.

The suggest thing guys should do is to be more than just a nice guy. Nice guys get friendzoned, if you are more than just a nice guy you get placed in the dating pool. Now what if you are more than just a nice guy and she still friend zones you? Well you messed up somewhere. Everyone does so don’t get mad. She’ll probably be a better friend to you and you will find a better girl to be with.

What about the girls who don’t like men because of such and such reasons? Well you just caught them at a bad time. Grudges don’t last forever and not every guy she meets is going to be the same. If you don’t want to be classified as another asshole. Quit being nice and be yourself. Niceness is not an expression of personality, kindness is. Nice is how you act when you are meeting the person for the first time. Here’s a litmus test for kind person. You are not kind if you act nice to your friends but you are a total asshole to waiters. So ladies, if you’re out with “nice guy” boyfriend and he’s super chill but when the waiter comes around and gives him lemonade instead of sprite. Watch for his reaction. If says it’s wrong but drinks it anyways or kindly asks for the right drink then he passes. If he’s as an asshole about, then you’re not out with a nice guy.

So a girl meets a great guy and friend zones him. Well have you seen what kind of game he brought? Was he acting more like an alpha or a beta. If he was acting beta then that’s his fault. If he was being super cool and the girl is acting like an immature frauline then some evaluations must be made. Love and relationships are a black and white thing. If someone means anything else other than yes I want to be in a relationship with you then it’s not going to happen without any real persistence. If the person just said not now, you get the hell out and move on because they are lying to you and they are keeping you around as a backup.

Despite everything. No woman, and I mean no woman, has any obligation to sleep with you or be with you because you are this so called nice guy. If she likes the game you brought to the table, she’ll be interested and want to get to know you better. If she thinks you’re awesome after that then you win.

If you are cynical because of your past experiences with women. Lighten up. Not all women are the same and there is someone out there for everyone. What must happen is that you need to work with time. Some people warm up to you faster than others and vice versa.